Abundance has become a real buzzword of late and is often associated with the ability to attain or earn money. A book and film of the same name called ‘The Secret’, now 10 years since first publication, became enormously popular with people seeking out the answers to creating abundance in their lives through what the book terms as the law of attraction, (the book now has over 2000 customer reviews on Amazon). Although I’m guessing that perceived strategies and tools to creating more money was a big draw for consumers, abundance can be applied to health, finances, career, relationships, time, and happiness or in fact in any area of your life. Although the experts in the film and the book impart their knowledge and compelling success stories, ‘The Secret‘ fails to tap into one vital thing.
All of the inspiring people in The Secret share the secret to their abundant lives and it is definitely worthy of our interest. There are also lessons that we can learn and in some form apply to our own lives. All of these inspiring leaders have experienced insights that have led them to a richer experience of life. The point is that they have been their own personal insights, relevant to their lives. Though inspiring to hear and learn from their insights, they worked for them because they came from their own intuition, from their circumstances.
We ALL have the capacity to tap into our own intuition in the same way. No one person has a greater ability than another to tap into their intuition and see fresh new ideas that can literally change their experience of their life in a second.
I love the field of personal development as much as the next person, but the danger is in assuming that the tools the ‘experts’ are sharing will give us the same result. But most just make us feel that there is a part of ourselves that we just haven’t quite tapped into yet and after a while they can give us a feeling of dissatisfaction with our perceived complacency.
So what is the definition of abundance? The dictionary describes it as overflowing fullness, affluence, wealth, and an extremely plentiful or over sufficient quantity or supply.
A couple of weeks ago I had an insight around abundance and its meaning. I saw that abundance as having the ability to see an infinite number of possibilities or outcomes in any given situation even if we can’t see them all in that moment. There was something incredibly reassuring and exciting about realising that there is always more possible than we have the ability to see in any given moment, my whole being lit up at ‘seeing’ this.
Of course the opposite of abundance is scarcity. Scarcity keeps us small. It stops us stepping out of what we can currently see life holds for us, be that in limitations on health, finances, time, a career change, a relationship and will never lead us to where the potential of gold dust can be sprinkled our lives. I saw that if there are always infinite possibilities available to us through a raise in consciousness and the potential for a new thought in the moment, then there is no one person on this planet that has more potential than any other to experience the most loving relationships, the greatest health, the greatest wealth, the most fulfilling career, the greatest joy imaginable.
A book I’ve just finished reading by Michael Bungay Stanier, The Coaching Habit- Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever, describes a study carried out in 2010. The study points to how any time we have something on our mind, it’s literally using up energy – even though it accounts for only about 2% of our body weight, our brain uses about 20% of our energy. Of course on top of that whatever filter we are experiencing our thought through, be it happiness, sadness, irritation, abundance or scarcity then that is all we will see in the world. This blows out of the water The Secret’s idea of the law of attraction. It’s not that we attract things because of positive or negative thinking, it’s that our thought in any given moment colours what we see. It is understanding the mechanism of how we create our experience that is important. So if we are in an irritated mood then everything we look at is going to appear problematic. If we are in a contented, happy mood than everything is going to seem easy, enjoyable, do-able. We’ve all experienced having a problem that seems unsolvable but when we relax and the mind quietens, (this can take anything from a second to months to years), then we are able to see resolutions that just didn’t seem possible before when our minds were running like a hamster wheel.
“5 times a second, at an unconscious level, your brain is scanning the environment around you and asking itself: Is it safe here or is it dangerous?....when your brain feels safe, it can operate at a sophisticated level. You’re more subtle in your thinking, better able to see and manage ambiguity. You assume positive intent of those around you, and you’re able to tap collective wisdom. You’re engaged in moving forward.” Michael Bungay Stanier
If we see the world through a filter of it being unsafe then of course it’s going to affect how we show up day to day and certainly won’t lead us to a life of abundance. Let’s take the example of being busy. I don’t know many people who don’t profess to have super busy lives. Technology has gone crazy, communication and information is now available anywhere, anytime. People check their emails, messages and Facebook account etc. constantly throughout the day. But there is a difference between being physically busy and being mentally busy. Mentally busy is not a healthy state to create a healthy life and as Tim Ferriss describes so beautifully in his book The 4-Hour Work Week “Being busy is a form of laziness – lazy thinking and indiscriminate action.” As Tim points out “If you’re saying “yes” to all these things, what are you saying “no “to?”
I love fast cars and do drive fast on occasions, but not all the time, I just love driving. We are not supposed to experience life in top gear all the time. Idling or sitting in neutral is equally enjoyable and it is only when we can create these spaces in our lives that the mind quietens and we have a far greater chance to have insights around any limitations we may be experiencing in our lives. Here, in this state of mind, we are able to have exciting new thoughts that just a moment before may have seemed impossible.
The life I live now is way beyond anything that was within my conciousness 10 years ago and I'm excited to see where the next 10 years will take me.
I think its safe to assume that we are all seeking a richer experience of life. We all want tomorrow’s experience to be better than today’s.
If you are curious about how you can create an abundant life then I would love to have an enlightening conversation with you. You can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org:
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