So I was sitting in my office preparing for my first client and I heard someone scrabbling around at my front door.
I jumped up to have a look, opened the front door and there was a confused lady standing there with 2 young kids trying to get a key in the door. “Oh” she exclaimed, “I thought this was my house…. We’ve just bought a house in the street.”
I laughed and said, “I think you need the house 2 doors down.” She was clearly in a flap and rushing and not thinking straight. My sympathy went out to her and I said not to worry and that it was a good opportunity to introduce ourselves and say “Hi.” I was however surprised she got the door so wrong as they look completely different and wondered what had her so hurried.
My new neighbour and her family have moved in now and we’ve had a few chats in passing these last 3 weeks, and I see her come and go with her kids frequently.
What’s been interesting is that I assumed that first meeting was a ‘one off’ flapping moment that we all experience, but every time I see her she’s in a hurry, looking stressed and carolling her kids in or out of the house or car. Even once on a beautiful sunny Friday afternoon seeing her at the beach she was in the same rushed state.
It reminded me of how I used to live life and how I used to see leaving the house and arriving back with the kids as just getting from one place to another thinking about what I had to do next. I had a huge realisation 3 years ago that when I’m feeling that hurried, frantic feeling, I am just not seeing the situation as it really is and I’m really disconnected to everyone and everything around me.
I was rarely present with my children and I am ashamed to say that I kind of saw them, all be it innocently, as baggage that needed shipping from one place to the next.
Now, I cannot remember the last time we had a school morning rush. In fact these days the kids are the ones asking me to get a move on.
Life is far more fun when we realise we can enjoy every single moment and that the school run is just as likely a place to have fun and feel connected to my kids, as sitting playing a family board game, going to the cinema or some other organised leisure time.
Of course my kids have noticed a massive change in me too and how I am showing up. Our relationship has never been better. I could regret those years I was innocently ‘not present’ with them, but I am just truly grateful to have seen through the illusion and enjoy them more than ever, no matter what we are doing or where we are going. I realised I have the capacity to enjoy every second with them living with a much quieter mind.
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