I’d heard it many times before ‘time is an illusion’, and I have a husband with a super enquiring mind that reads books like Stephen Hawking’s A Brief History of Time, who not infrequently talks about 'time' being made up.
I have finally had a glimpse of the illusion and an explanation as to why the school morning routine - with that mad dash for the school gate before it closes - never seems to be a rushed and stressed experience anymore (what a blessing).
I used to be quite literally ruled by time. I was never late - if anything - I'd be ‘safely’, very punctually, early. The details of any journey or destination was investigated to the n’th degree along with contingency plans. I resonated with sayings like ‘fail to plan, then plan to fail’. Goodness, even reflecting on it now, I can see I spent a lot of time projecting into the future on what was to come (as if that is even possible). There was a sense that being this way kept me safe and everything under control. How did I never see that I had no chance to enjoy the precious moment and potentially my whole life could have passed me by in the habit of planning for what was to come and missing what was right in front of me? This is not a life well lived. In fact I feel quite tearful even thinking about it.
I’m sure many of you will have heard of Ekhart Tolle’s The Power of Now. Ekhart Tolle's message is simple: living in the now is the truest path to happiness and enlightenment. I heard this message but didn’t really ‘hear it’ or ‘get it’, until now. In the same way your spouse or partner can tell you something umpteen times and then someone else says the same thing and the penny drops. It’s like diets, giving up smoking, drugs, drinking. YOU have to have the insight, i.e. see it for yourself, then the behaviour changes effortlessly.
I feel so blessed to have finally had a glimpse of the illusion of time. I’ve had times in the last 3 years whilst looking at the inside:out paradigm, where I have felt so peaceful and blissed out, that running to catch a train doesn’t make sense anymore. I’ve been engrossed in conversations for hours where I’ve forgotten the habit of looking at the clock or my watch.
When we’re hanging out in that super blissed out, peaceful state (even on a busy, late, unreliable commuter train), for me things just seem to get done and fall into place without the controlling drive and rushing around, micromanaging I used to do. That’s the true self, hanging out in that peaceful state of mind. The illusion is when we step back into the world of time. It’s quite handy for arranging to meet up with friends, planning coaching sessions, events or catching planes and trains but it has a very different feel to it these days.
I am late occasionally now and the kids don’t always have clean pants or socks at the ready, but they smile and forgive me instantly when I acknowledge my change in behaviour and say “yeah I am a bit rubbish at times these days planning ahead, but I’m much nicer to live with.”
If you're curious to discover what it feels like to live being totally present in the moment and want to experience life in a whole new easy way, then join me for a day's workshop to learn about the inside:out paradigm.
Places are limited so book early to avoid disappointment.
(The price will go up each month as we get nearer to the event).
One Day Workshop - Creating a Stress-free Life
Saturday, October 15, 2016, 10:00am 4:00pm
Venue: Cornerstone Community Centre, Church Road, Hove, BN3 2FL
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