It was around 13 years ago that I became interested in food and nutrition and how it can impact our health, energy, moods and general day-to-day experience of life. A diagnosis of chronic fatigue syndrome brought my life to a very painful halt. After much research I found answers that made sense to me within the world of food and nutrition. They made sense because I had a huge insight around how food has the capacity to change our energy levels and the way we feel. My curiousity and experience of which foods gave me energy and which foods sapped my energy became so great it subsequently had a very large part to play in getting me well again. This initial curiosity and light bulb moment in an instant made me realise a complete career change was on the cards.
After years of training and research in this area my focus shifted to that of the health of the mind. For a healthy body without a healthy mind is pretty pointless and today I understand how intrinsically inter-linked they are.
I feel blessed to be in a really great place in my life right now. A culmination of many years of personal development finally led me to my current mentor Jamie Smart. Jamie is a state of mind specialist and number 1 international bestselling author of ‘Clarity’ and ‘The Little Book of Clarity’. The irony is that after years of looking for optimum wellbeing Jamie has made me realise it was within me all along.
At some level all of us are looking to personal development. We all want tomorrow’s experience to be better than today’s. Some people put more emphasis on it than others and certainly there are enough workshops, books, seminars and coaches (of which I am one), to meet the most ardent seeker of ‘personal development’. As with many trends America has been the leader in this field with up to $500 million spent on a variety of personal development products and services every year. The net worth of the industry is thought to be around $11 billion with greater than average economic growth year on year.
I think its safe to assume that we are all seeking a richer experience of life and personal development tools package this intangible golden future in the most enticing way. There are an abundance of quotations, books, DVDs and seminars to get us in ‘the right frame of mind’. We all want great relationships, good health, a sense of wellbeing and success at work (whatever success means to you), a good income and a great work/life balance.
The leaders within this industry include the likes of Tony Robbins, Seth Godin, Deepak Chopra, Tim Ferriss, Robert Kiyosaki and Oprah Winfrey. The word ‘self’ or ‘personal’ in the development field is the key here. What all of these inspiring people have experienced in their own lives is definitely worthy of our interest. There are also lessons that we can learn and in some form apply to our own lives. All of these inspiring leaders (you’ve got to love Oprah) have experienced insights that have led them to a richer experience of life. The point is that they have been their own personal insights, relevant to their lives and their experiences. Though inspiring to hear and learn from their insights, they worked for them because they came from their own intuition, from their circumstances. We ALL have the capacity to tap into our own intuition in the same way. No one person has a greater ability than another to tap into their intuition and see fresh new ideas that can literally change their experience of their life in a second.
I love personal development books as much as the next person, but the danger is in assuming that the tools the author is sharing will gave the same result to us. They are certainly powerful at giving an emotional boost and a can-do attitude. But most just make us feel that there is a part of ourselves that we just haven’t quite tapped into yet and after a while they can give us a feeling of dissatisfaction with our perceived complacency.
There is no one size fits all in this life, whether we are talking about the right diet and nutrition, the way to achieve a great work life or relationship, how to earn money, how to feel calm and at peace and so the list goes on. Of course we can learn from these inspiring people but if there is one thing we hear it’s that the answer is within your self and cannot be found be searching outside of you. I’ve heard this said many times before but never really fully understood what it was pointing to. To package someone else’s wisdom as our own creates a busy mind, and a busy mind is not fertile ground for our own wisdom to show itself. The risk for those that spend years looking for answers in the personal development field is that they find with all the information available, some of which can be conflicting, it creates a busier and busier mind moving us further away from that lovely state of inner knowing, peace and calm.
There is only one of YOU, your circumstances and experience of life is unique to only you, so anyone else’s wisdom may have merit and may be partially helpful but may not be a good fit for you. On top of that, it’s hard work to follow someone else’s inner compass and gives less chance of a quiet mind to allow your own intuition to appear.
There is an art to learning your inner knowing if it is something you are not familiar with and certainly years of personal development may have you in the habit of constantly looking out there for answers. Working with Jamie as a Clarity Practitioner it is now so clear to me that a happy state comes from a quiet, clear mind. This state of mind makes it so much easier for our wisdom to show up in all areas of our life, it’s not selective! People I work with may initially have the desire to work with me to improve their health but find all areas of their life improve – relationships, work, finances – it’s a full upgrade. The beauty of this understanding is that there is no more having to motivate or force yourself to do something. It will quite simply make sense to you without a whole load of thinking going on.
Personal development in the form of looking to others’ wisdom can leave you with the feeling of being inferior or not good enough and certainly many who seek the resources of the self development field deeply feel they are in someway flawed.
Just like our state of innate wellbeing we have everything we need within us when we strip back the chaff. As Jamie Smart so succinctly puts it in The Little Book of Clarity “…there’s good news. People are born with a powerful immune system that protects us from disease and illness. The immune system reflects an innate tendency towards health and wellness that also shows up in the body’s ability to repair wounds, breaks and other injuries. It is a little-known fact, however that people also have a ‘psychological immune system’, able to quickly restore even an extremely perturbed mind to clarity and wellbeing.”
If you have spent time looking to the personal development field for answers in any area of your life and still feel you aren’t finding the answers you are looking for and would like to have a chat around how ‘Clarity’ works, then I would love to have an enlightening conversation with you. You can send me message on the form link below:
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