My kids are 11 and 13 now. I used to worry about so many things when it came to parenting, and I hear similar worries from my clients. The eight most common ones go something like this:
- I am so confused on where to set boundaries and what guidelines to use. I can swing so erratically from being relaxed to strict and controlling. How do I find a healthy balance?
- How do I get my kids to listen and help out around the house without having to shout, or otherwise try to show them ‘I’m in control’?
- How do I stop myself going crazy with frustration and anger when they are misbehaving?
- How can I stop this terrible cycle of fighting that ends in me feeling sad and like I am mentally hurting them, and then my kids feel disconnected, closed down and withdrawn?
- I’m worried if this cycle of behaviour continues between us when they become teenagers they’ll no longer want to spend any time with me or have any respect for me, and it seems I can already feel their withdrawing?
- How do I help my kids when they’re upset or anxious? How can I help them deal with difficult situations?
- I can feel myself get irritated with the kids when I’ve had a bad day at work. How do I stop myself losing it so easily?
- I am tired of always hurrying both myself, and the kids. How can I live more in flow and enjoy time with them at the start and end of each day, as I know they’ll be grown up and gone before I know it?
My kids, my husband and I have been on a quite a journey together since their conception. Of course there have been bumps along the way, some heart melting moments and some heart breaking ones too, but the way I have parented in the last few years has become SO much easier, and for once it’s not through doing what my parents did, copying what I read in a book, or through trying to force myself to behave and act in a way that doesn’t come easily.
I’ve stopped questioning if I’m doing the right thing as a parent because I know there is ONE THING for sure that is ultimately going to make the biggest difference.
For kids - it doesn’t matter what school they go, what education they get, who their friends are, whether Mum works or not, or what their household income or standard of living is. The key to happy children who can easily navigate life’s ups and downs and grow into being happy adults, is the level of connection they feel with their parent(s), and that level of connection relies on the following from parent(s):
- Unconditional love
- Deep listening
- Their level of presence
- Seeing that their children have as much wisdom as they do.
Do you want to really learn what these mean and master connected parenting in a way you might never have before, where parenting becomes effortless so that you are able to create an optimal home life for your kids to really thrive in every way? Then join me for a truly transformational weekend: